Day 38: It was turning into one of those nights. You know, the nights you don’t remember after 2 or 3 days. Daniel and I were both scrolling through our respective Facebook feeds, half watching something on TV out of the corner of our eyes. But something in me snapped and I thought to myself, “let’s make this night special.” So to the kitchen I went, because, yes, most of my attempts to manipulate emotion start in the kitchen. I made popcorn, quesadillas, and homemade ice cream. They were all delicious. And I went to my old standby, the mattress on the living room floor. You must undersand, in our living room we have a very comfortable recliner, for one, and a semi-comfortable futon for two. But when a mattress is on the floor, we can both be comfortable and together. And after a fun movie night, we got to sleep right there, in our bed, in the living room, on the floor. Sometimes something like camping in your own living room can feel adventurous, even as an adult.
There are some problems that just a hug can solve.
A few days ago, as I was scrapping ice off my windshield (yes, it’s that time of year once again), in my adorable boots, I rolled my ankle. I’ve had much worse but usually when doing something that deserves it. I’ll heal, so there’s no need to worry. No bruising, no swelling, nothing to prove my pain. I know this injury well enough to know that it doesn’t need to stay still. What it really needs is gentle stretching. This sucks though because it hurts. I remember the same paradox after a set of surgeries, screaming in tears to walk 3 steps to the chair because I needed to move to recover.
I’ve seen plenty of sources citing that we don’t read anymore. While I remember this everytime I read through the comments section in magazine articles (you can’t comment on the title alone people!) there is still a fair share of reading going on. We spend hours reading through our Facebook or Twitter timelines. I’ll admit, I’m not the bookworm that my sister always said I should be, and my annual book count is painfully low. So in essence I am speaking to myself here.
Today we reached a milestone. A whole year of marriage! I’m sure that now makes us experts. Tonight we sat down and chatted about what we’ve learned in this year and what our goals are for the next. As we laid out our goals and objectives I began to understand something. Marriage is a opportunity to share love, but also a classroom to grow yourself. I look forward to seeing what we make of this next year.
There’s a great workshop you should check out brought to us by Oprah. Hosted by Marcus Buckingham, Take Control of your Career takes 29 women through the process of discovering themselves to better enjoy their careers. One of the concepts that he brings up is that you grow the most in your strengths. He’s written whole bestselling books on this apparently. So I probably don’t have it figured out as much as I think. But it’s amazing how true it is. When you’re good at something, enjoy doing it, are gifted to think in that way, that’s what you will grow in. Make use of who you are! There are always ways to grow who you are, always. But love who you are and use it well!